Caring for Yourself While Parenting a Child with ADHD

I remember as a child how long the school year seemed to stretch on. The days in the classroom felt endless, while those “lazy” summer days seemed to fly by at warp speed. Now, as an adult whose children have left the nest and started families of their own, I find that the days—no matter the season—seem to pass in the blink of an eye. As I sit here writing this at the end of June, preparing for July, I could swear I just took down my Christmas tree and celebrated Thanksgiving.

For parents supporting children who are neurodivergent, such as those with ADHD, or who are neurodivergent themselves, time can feel even more precious and fleeting. That’s why I want to start a series on how best to support both the caregiver and those needing care.

As parents, guardians, or caretakers, we are constantly called upon to give our time, talent, and treasure. The demands can be overwhelming, especially when caring for a child with ADHD, who may need extra patience, structure, and understanding. It’s easy to put our own needs last, but the truth is: we cannot pour from an empty cup.

It is imperative that we, as parents, grandparents, and caregivers, take care of ourselves so that we can adequately meet the emotional, spiritual, and physical needs of our children. When we are depleted, it becomes difficult—if not impossible—to be fully present and supportive.

So, I want to encourage every parent reading this to take on a new challenge: commit to better self-care—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—so you can be the best version of yourself for your children and grandchildren.

Here are a few ways to start:

• Prioritize Exercise: Even a short daily walk or a few minutes of stretching can help reduce stress and boost your mood. Physical activity is not only good for your body, but it also helps clear your mind and increase your patience.

• Invest in Your Spiritual Practices: Whether it’s prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection, nurturing your spiritual life can provide comfort, guidance, and resilience.

• Practice Mindfulness: Taking a few moments each day to breathe deeply and be present can help you manage the chaos and stay grounded.

• Seek Support: Consider attending therapy or joining a support group. Learning new coping skills and gaining insight into your own patterns of behavior can make a world of difference.

• Rest and Recharge: Don’t underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep or a quiet moment to yourself. Rest is essential for both you and your child.

In conclusion, you can better care for your children this summer—and all year long—when you yourself are better rested and cared for. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s one of the most loving things you can do for your family.